It’s been a very long time since I've written a blog. I've written anything ranging from light hearted to useful tips to even practical fitness workouts that anyone can do. After a long absence, I'm back with a message that some might think is bordering on heavy. Some things seem to be coming up with me that I'm seeing which are reminding me of past events
Have you ever liked someone so much that you almost worship them? Have you ever know someone who is like that?
Maybe they emulate someone’s lifestyle, some of their language mannerisms (using the words that they do or speaking in the way that they speak)? Follow them around the world even?
Now, there may be a couple of things that you might have in common like perhaps singing, working out, eating certain things just for examples. Hey, you might even be fast friends! But where could it be coming from?
I have ridden the wave of an exciting type of movement. I bought the equipment, the music, used certain words or phrases that I’d heard from people whom I admire and respect (past and present). I liked and like what they've stood for and what they happened to be selling if any.
Speaking in the past, where could this have come from? In my case looking back, I don’t think I really know my own identity at the time. I was dealing with a lot of stuff and frankly, PTSD from a very bad work experience and my Dad became ill. A lot happening.
One day I went to a class that sparked a shift in my mindset. I got swept up in all hype and almost latched onto someone else's words and Philosophy's. I truly was effected by an experience that I’d had at a conference that year. But, thank GOD I grew out of that phase of my life. Geeeeeez! It was inauthentic. I think there was a part of me that desperately wanted to make some positive changes. So it was like a “Me Too” lifestyle.
"The Me Too" lifestyle for example would be the person someone likes says he works out hard every day to be in the best shape ever and wouldn’t you know it, the little lady likes to do all the same things that he does because it sure is healthy, healthy HEALTHY!!
Or the woman who goes to a fun party Latin fitness class where the instructor and all the participants are wearing ripped shirts with ribbon sewn to their pants because, EVERYone’s doing it..! It’s cool right?
Yep, I was into the catchy phrases and words and saying that I do this, “My body does that etc.” All that came from someone else. I met some genuinely good people in from that circle whom I still keep in contact with but I started to realize that it really was a kleeky group who never give me the time of day outside attending one of their workshops. They’d give shout outs and help promote certain instructors in their quest to run these movement classes but there was zero support for me in MY quest to do the same.
I started to realize that this was just bullshit. They weren’t interested in me at all! That’s when things started to change for me in another way. I started waking up…
I knew someone who connected with another person, practically followed them around everywhere. They eventually became great friends who were almost inseparable. Then that person became a part of the business then their partner. And one day, it happened that the Keener, ended up basically stealing their "Hero's" hard work away from them and made it their own leaving them having to rebuild. It was financial and emotional rape. Cue skin crawling!
At present, there are times where I do like to quote certain people and like their posts. If I do that, it’s because I do happen to agree with what they may be saying or asking for an opinion. It isn’t coming from “idolizing” them. I may very much like that person and appreciate their values but, I won’t hold them in Celebrity like Status. They’re not God-like, they can do wrong. I may not always agree with everything I see or hear from them. But, if something resonates with me, I feel it and take it in. I don’t worship anymore. And I don’t follow their every move on social media or by means of an airplane.
Yeah, people do have their own ideas and it sure is easy to get caught up in the fun stuff and exciting stuff and there very well may be some similarities between you both. But hopefully there won’t be any red flags down the road. Watch out for the eager beavers. Caution is so important. Protect yourself. And be authentic. There are some who might see right through it.